A woman after God’s Heart

“The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, But the fact that I am a Christian does make me a different kind of woman.”
-Elisabeth Elliot

So, what does it mean to be a woman after God’s own Heart?

Does it mean that you follow a list of rules and regulations? Do you have to shape up to a specific pattern or mold?

I don’t think so.

I believe that in order to be a woman of God, a woman after God’s own Heart, we must get to know our Saviour. We must be so in love with Him and desire to develop a deep, intimate relationship with Him. We must spend time in His Word and on our knees before Him.

When you have a relationship with Him and love Him with all your heart there may be patterns and molds you shape your life to, or rules you follow… but it will be because you desire to please Him and not because anyone else expects it of you.

The Inner Beauty of a Woman

 1 Peter 3:3-4 

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

Incorruptible beauty!

What does incorruptible mean? The dictionary defines incorruptible as something that will not dissolve, disintegrate or decay.

In today’s time women strive to keep their beauty and youth as long as possible. We try every facial treatment, creams, face lifts, hair dye and makeup, (just to mention a few) and yet our outward beauty fades… Our outward beauty is corruptible… It fades with time and there is nothing we can do about it.

But, what about this INCORRUPTIBLE beauty the Bible speaks about? How can we get this?

The verse in 1 Peter says “Do not let your adornment be merely outward …rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

The hidden person of the heart refers to our INNER beauty; beauty which comes from our character and out of our hearts. It comes from a gentle and quiet spirit which the Bible declares to be precious in the sight of God.

This is not implying that we change our personality but rather that we shift our focus, away from ourselves and away from our external appearance and towards Jesus Christ and a relationship with Him. Jesus is our true Prince. He wants us to be in love with Him and He promises that He will never leave us nor forsake us. This topic is a whole other message on its own so we won’t elaborate on that now.

Proverbs 31:30,

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

It is this holy reverent fear of the Lord spoken about in Proverbs 31 that inspires praise and also highlights our INNER beauty.

Coming back to the verse in 1 Peter, it says firstly, “do not let your adornment be merely outward…”

This does not imply that you don’t take care of yourself or may not adorn your external body. It only guides us to understand that there are more important than things than our external adornment.

Makeup, jewellery and clothing are simply tools that can enhance a lady’s God-given INNER beauty but, if and when used improperly, will detract from it also.

INNER beauty is also dependent on being content with who you are and how God made you.



I wish I could describe the feeling… the indescribable JOY when you haven’t seen your husband in over 6 weeks and suddenly, there he is… in front of you… totally unexpected!

Last week Wednesday was D-day. The day that my husband should be back in South Africa.

I was super excited! I had booked a flight for Wednesday morning from Cape Town to Durban where I was going to meet up with Michael en route from Mozambique back to Cape Town. We intended to meet in Durban and stay with our folks there for a few days. My flight was in the morning and Michael was only going to be arriving that evening late. I planned to make a really special dinner for him and to get dressed all special once I get to Durban.

That morning I was up early and at the airport in good time for my flight. Before boarding Michael still phoned me from his Mozambique number to find out how things were going. He told me that according to people in Mozambique the drive from there to Durban would take about 11 hours and that would mean that he will be with me that night by around 7 pm. I was really looking forward to seeing him.

My brother-in-law messaged me that he will be picking me up from the airport as my mother-in-law was going for blood tests. That was all good. I boarded and after a smooth 2 hour flight I landed at King Shaka International Airport. I messaged my brother-in-law and told him that I had landed. He replied that he was already there waiting for me but I must come outside to the pick-up area. Once I had claimed my baggage I headed out toward the pick-up area.

Coming out of the baggage reclaim I saw a man… one that looked very much like my long-lost husband… standing there just looking at the notice board.

I was confused! I couldn’t believe my eyes because it seemed they were tricking my mind… I walked slowly towards this man and then he turned!

It was my HUSBAND!!!! The handsomest most wonderful man I had ever set my eyes upon! I just quickstepped into his welcome arms and clung on for dear life allowing the tears of joy and relief to wash over my cheeks.

My brother-in-law was not far behind recording all this with the faithful camera so here is a link to the video…